It's a Request, Not a Complaint.

Hi people.

I hope some of you out there have been encouraged by the "TWIWTB" series (you don't expect me to write it all out do ya?). :) And those of you who have been unbearably bored by it or consider it too feminine...please bear with us. :D

To start the month, i just want to quickly comment on something i've talked about previously. A few weeks back, i was conversing with a colleague. He was talking about how tired he was of trying not to be rude and embarass a lady based on her choice of attire by walking away or ignoring her; and yet stated that it was rather very tasking and terribly annoying having to pretend someone you were attempting to converse with wasn't loudly distracting; thereby making staying focused on whatever it was she was trying to say a tad more tedious.

The truth is there's a whole portfolio of things i could be 'rolling my eyes' at on this post but i'll just stick to this one matter. Please bear in mind that it is mega stale and even over beaten by me.

(I know. I'm sorry.)lol

Anyway, i'm siting this singularly to avoid an overly lengthy post; and my focus is on my gender because - unfortunately - we often are the most easy-to-spot culprits of wardrobe malfunctions. I'm not sure how many folks will relate - or if any will - but just know that my aim is not to bash anyone or foster resentment. i.e - I write in peace! ;)

Alright, here's a case scenario.

_____________________________________________________________________Many of Us Wish She'd Wear Something Else Though....______________________________

Her bosom is practically sweeping the floor while her skirt's almost giving us a sneak preview of her womb; her friend's panty-line doesn't exist and we know that because those trousers are so tight we now know what the blood vessels in her bum look like. Then a third person joins the duo and her dress has you guessing - Is it an epic fashion illusion?

Is it linen under lace?

Oh wait.

Nah. It's her birthday suit beneath a fancy fishing net.

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You get the picture.

I already know i'm going to offend (or have offended) a whole lot of people. That's a shame. But i refuse to sit quiet and pretend this hasn't been taken too far and that there isn't a young man out there some of us are giving unnecessary pain. And before anyone goes into how sexist it is that females have to cover up and males don't - please pause, look down at your body, and then continue reading.

If all the miss Independents don't care what anyone thinks about their dressing, and don't care how what they wear may send some dudes the wrong message, then complete the cycle and not care when someone tries to feel you up or tap without permission. Okay?

Let me reiterate. I'm requesting that folks cover up a lil' more...but of course you don't have to. Heck no! No one HAS to be decent, neither m nor f.

We're all grown people. If we're old enough to pick our clothes out ourselves then i assume we're old enough to know the essence of those clothes and if we do and yet deliberately disregard their function, oh well...#shrug. But i am writing this; first as a Christian who knows her heavenly Father does not appreciate can't STAND IT when some of her sisters (and brothers but i'm focusing on my kind here) shamelessly  and indiscriminately flaunt the bodies He has given them to care for and keep sacred (roll your eyes all you want) for both Him and the partner who'll eventually be responsible for nurturing and 'luvvin' it. Second, as a friend to many young men who have expressed their exasperation with this almost viral obsession with nudity on the part of females (whom some now have a hard time believing are more than the skin they flash), and lastly as a concerned young woman who just weeps at the desperate loneliness and insecurity that too often tends to be foundation for this attention seeking, self-degrading hobby!

I believe the average male's senses are triggered by his sight. Of course he is responsible for what he feeds to his mind and what he lets his eyes linger on but we can give 'em a break can't we?

I mean is it really too much to ask that we don't walk around like some of us plan to model for a biology poster of the human female anatomy?

'Peek-a-boo' huh? -_-

It's 'just a little slack' is it?

And before someone concludes that this is an advocacy for them guys who are just hormone crazed, presumptuous jerks who can't get a grip and lust too much, bear in mind that us females are almost now beating them at this lust-thing. They, for the bodies and we, for the attention.

It's not like form fitting clothes are evil or an above-the-knee-skirt's going to send anyone to hell. Personally i love mini-skirts (almost as much as i love baggy jeans) and would just love to wear them whenever, wherever! But now i have to wear tights or leggings, or rather i choose to and you know why? Because we live in a fallen world and not everyone is walking around with saintly thoughts. Because there's someone who's trying to renew his mind and purify his heart and them provocative rags won't help him none. Because being my brother's keeper goes beyond willingness to share my food and money or whatever! Besides, since i'm not married yet, is it really fair that every random eye gets to ogle at the would-be prized posession of that amazing fellow who'll eventually win my heart? And if i were married, what exactly would be my motive in exposing all and sundry and trying to get everyone drooling after me, when the person i've chosen to give myself to (heart and body) can see all that skin i'm carelessly flashing whenever he should so please?! 

If an absolute stranger walked up to you and demanded every treasure you ever owned; you'd probably think it over, refuse, and try to hide your stuff away from the person isn't it?

Your body should be treated that way. Because it's precious. It is to God and it should be to you too.

We left the garden of Eden a long time ago fam. Nakedness isn't the norm anymore.

Have an amazing September.

xxx, Kwiksie.~