Hi again! Please follow this link and vote for my entry (that is, if you actually like it) on Tallenge.com. It's a poetry/writing contest of sorts ending by Sep 17th.
Thanks!
xxx, kwiksie~
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Sunday, 25 August 2013
Learning To Listen
Hi you blessed bunch! How are you doing?! :) Kinda missed writing for you though...
Well, i'd just like to share a recent experience i had when struggling to find the best way possible to solve an issue.
Or rather, a dilemma.
A dilemma i was faced with while attempting to figure out my next step in this life journey of mine. And in case you've not sniffed out the hint...yes, it was a very important choice i had to make.
So i had it all figured out yeah. These were my plans, such and such is what i intended to do in so and so time and whether or not it was scriptural; as long as it was what i wanted it was fine.
But you see, it really wasn't.
The entire thing started getting so messy, nothing was working out as it was supposed to. Stuff i needed to make my great dream(s) come true were just not available! It was frustrating i tell you.
I fought and i fought and i wouldn't listen if it wasn't my headstrong will speaking. I even tuned up my stubborness and selective hearing but the effects were still unsatisfactory.
Yeah. I was at a cross-road alright, Problem is, i wasn't even sure if i was meant to choose a path anymore. I'd spent so much time confusing myself, both sides seemed wrong.
But even that thought didn't sit right in my heart.
So, eventually, i chose to do what i was supposed to from the very beginning. I chose to talk to God.
I mean, He'd spoken initially but immediately after...i took off! I figured there were still some parts of the conversation left hanging but, y'know' i just filled in the blanks with what i considered appropriate. And convenient. Without His final consent. Such silliness...i know right?
I guess that's where i missed it.
Soon enough though, when i got my priorities straight and my reasoning faculty was once again functioning optimally, i let Him calm and lead me. His reassuring and yet firm voice was all the soothing i'd need. Things became a lot less turbulent when it was to His voice, and not mine, my heart paid heed.
In the end, the confusion i aided my assumptions in creating offered zero comfort so i figured waiting for His time was of much more worth...and believe you me, it was.
Trusting God and trusting in Him is always more fulfilling and useful. Than worrying about the future, living in fear or worry about what might go wrong or not go very right, doubting His complete ability to deal perfectly with all that concerns me (you, your familiy, etc). Methinks sometimes we all need a refresher course in faith, trust, humility and obedience. I suppose this was mine...
Lesson learned. :)
Proverbs 14:26// Proverbs 3:7// Ephesians 3:20// Proverbs 3:5// Psalm 106:1
xxx, kwiksie~
Well, i'd just like to share a recent experience i had when struggling to find the best way possible to solve an issue.
Or rather, a dilemma.
A dilemma i was faced with while attempting to figure out my next step in this life journey of mine. And in case you've not sniffed out the hint...yes, it was a very important choice i had to make.
So i had it all figured out yeah. These were my plans, such and such is what i intended to do in so and so time and whether or not it was scriptural; as long as it was what i wanted it was fine.
But you see, it really wasn't.
The entire thing started getting so messy, nothing was working out as it was supposed to. Stuff i needed to make my great dream(s) come true were just not available! It was frustrating i tell you.
I fought and i fought and i wouldn't listen if it wasn't my headstrong will speaking. I even tuned up my stubborness and selective hearing but the effects were still unsatisfactory.
Yeah. I was at a cross-road alright, Problem is, i wasn't even sure if i was meant to choose a path anymore. I'd spent so much time confusing myself, both sides seemed wrong.
But even that thought didn't sit right in my heart.
So, eventually, i chose to do what i was supposed to from the very beginning. I chose to talk to God.
I mean, He'd spoken initially but immediately after...i took off! I figured there were still some parts of the conversation left hanging but, y'know' i just filled in the blanks with what i considered appropriate. And convenient. Without His final consent. Such silliness...i know right?
I guess that's where i missed it.
Soon enough though, when i got my priorities straight and my reasoning faculty was once again functioning optimally, i let Him calm and lead me. His reassuring and yet firm voice was all the soothing i'd need. Things became a lot less turbulent when it was to His voice, and not mine, my heart paid heed.
In the end, the confusion i aided my assumptions in creating offered zero comfort so i figured waiting for His time was of much more worth...and believe you me, it was.
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Lesson learned. :)
Proverbs 14:26// Proverbs 3:7// Ephesians 3:20// Proverbs 3:5// Psalm 106:1
xxx, kwiksie~
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Tuesday, 13 August 2013
To a Wonderful Mother.
Someone Special: A Poem for
Mama.
I met someone special
Almost 20years ago;
With laughter like petals of
the softest rose.
So fragile in appearance, more
delicate than most;
Yet with greater strength than
all of 'MARVEL'S Heroes.
I met someone special; i never
planned this meet,
But my first encounter with
vision this lovely face did greet;
In that very moment, grew an
almost magical bond
With zero connection to
fairies, witches and wands.
I've known someone special my
entire life,
Down beneath or at loftier,
merrier times.
Life's situations never
determined this person's location,
'Ever nearby' became the
permanent station.
I've known someone special as i
have grown
And by this special person, I’m
known also;
My strengths, joys, and the
times i fell...
They are all known and known
very well.
This special someone, i share
with a group of four
Biologically speaking, but
otherwise tons more.
This special someone, i cherish
more than she'll ever know;
She is called Ifediora Ope
Tanimowo.
I love you mummy.
I love you mummy.
xxx, kwiksie.~
Friday, 2 August 2013
Key Words: F.A.I.T.H & T.R.U.S.T
Hi people! What's been going on? Any milestones to celebrate? Any testimonies to be thankful for? Any challenges recently dealt with or in the process of being overcome??? Come on, there's got to be something!
Well i'm sure they ARE there--somewhere. We just need to look a little harder... :)
I've been splendid though (thank you for asking). Oh sure, there have been a great many challenges, hurdles yet to be jumped and what not. But the good thing is, i know who's got my back sooo...Hakunamatata! #lionkingmoment, sorry. ;)
Anyway, this past week, i've had about a gazillion and five things on my mind and the count is still on! You know it doesn't necessarily take a whole lot to get your head to explode. There's the goings on around the world, my government, friends i should but haven't called, people i owe visits, money i need (which appears to be scarce..on the surface), my country, challenges other loved ones are facing, situations that need to be prayed for, family matters, personal life, time i'm yet to invest in perfecting my guitar playing, Spiritual growth, preparations for my future, where am i going, blah blah blah blah---STOP!
Sometimes we need to sit back, tell our overzealous thought processes to shut self up and PRAY! A much more soothing, useful and result generating process dontchu think?
Remember the scripture, Matthew 6:33? Anyone? That's right, it says: "Seek first [Be concerned above all else with] God’s kingdom and ·what God wants [ his righteousness]. Then all ·your other needs will be met as well [ these things will be given to you].
What does 'all' mean here? The same thing ALL signifies in any context in which it is used pal! Everything. Lacking nothing. Complete. Whole. Perfect. ALL!!!
Get it? In other words, GET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT!
If we actually go up to verse 25 of this same chapter, we'll discover that Jesus was actually warning His disciples in earnest against being overly bothered about and having disquieting, distrustful, distracting cares about things of the world (which is a pretty bad hint that you're waaaay into so much perishable-earth junk, that you've completely lost your heart to it and forgotten where the REAL treasures are at!) Pretty sad huh?
Matthew 6:25-
"Therefore I say unto you, be not careful for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink: nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more worth than meat? and the body than raiment?"
Remember what God is forbidding here? The THOUGHT!
Disquieting ones, hurrying the mind and disturbing our joy in God.
Distrustful, unbelieving ones, springing from doubt in God's unshaking promises to care for and watch over us.
And the sequence is, HIM FIRST and then everything else tags along.
The money, fees for tuition, that new car, a great, Jesus crazed guy who won't hurt you like the others, a child, twins, quinteplets even, a new house, a born again Spouse, new ideas, fresh inspiration, a different job, a different boss, a happy life, a life that completely honors God, a more seasoned tongue, a generous spirit, better grades, more business, no more nightmares, peace of mind, provision, good health---ALL THESE THINGS SHALL BE ADDED UNTO YOU!
After you seek Him.
No one is saying be unconcerned about everything. Just take instead, everything that concerns you and lay them at His feet. Trusting unwaveringly that He will never, EVER let you down.
Hebrews 11:6-
"And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him."
Key word: Faith. Synonym: Trust. Antonyms: Doubt, Fear, Worry.
:)
Stay blessed people, and whatever you do, DON'T WORRY!
xxx, kwiksie~
Well i'm sure they ARE there--somewhere. We just need to look a little harder... :)
I've been splendid though (thank you for asking). Oh sure, there have been a great many challenges, hurdles yet to be jumped and what not. But the good thing is, i know who's got my back sooo...Hakunamatata! #lionkingmoment, sorry. ;)

Sometimes we need to sit back, tell our overzealous thought processes to shut self up and PRAY! A much more soothing, useful and result generating process dontchu think?
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What does 'all' mean here? The same thing ALL signifies in any context in which it is used pal! Everything. Lacking nothing. Complete. Whole. Perfect. ALL!!!
Get it? In other words, GET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT!
If we actually go up to verse 25 of this same chapter, we'll discover that Jesus was actually warning His disciples in earnest against being overly bothered about and having disquieting, distrustful, distracting cares about things of the world (which is a pretty bad hint that you're waaaay into so much perishable-earth junk, that you've completely lost your heart to it and forgotten where the REAL treasures are at!) Pretty sad huh?
Matthew 6:25-
"Therefore I say unto you, be not careful for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink: nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more worth than meat? and the body than raiment?"
.jpg)
Disquieting ones, hurrying the mind and disturbing our joy in God.
Distrustful, unbelieving ones, springing from doubt in God's unshaking promises to care for and watch over us.
And the sequence is, HIM FIRST and then everything else tags along.
The money, fees for tuition, that new car, a great, Jesus crazed guy who won't hurt you like the others, a child, twins, quinteplets even, a new house, a born again Spouse, new ideas, fresh inspiration, a different job, a different boss, a happy life, a life that completely honors God, a more seasoned tongue, a generous spirit, better grades, more business, no more nightmares, peace of mind, provision, good health---ALL THESE THINGS SHALL BE ADDED UNTO YOU!
After you seek Him.
No one is saying be unconcerned about everything. Just take instead, everything that concerns you and lay them at His feet. Trusting unwaveringly that He will never, EVER let you down.
Hebrews 11:6-
"And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him."
Key word: Faith. Synonym: Trust. Antonyms: Doubt, Fear, Worry.
:)
Stay blessed people, and whatever you do, DON'T WORRY!
xxx, kwiksie~
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Saturday, 20 July 2013
Marriage or Murder.
Hi people. Wish i had something more pleasant to share today but i saw this post by someone on facebook and felt the urgent need to share it. Please, don't lets turn the other way while evil cruises the streets....
STOLEN LIVES
“ELHAM MAHDI AL ASSI WAS A YOUNG GIRL WITH GREAT PLANS FOR HER FUTURE. THOSE PLANS CAME TO A CRUEL END WHEN SHE MARRIED A MAN WHO WOULD LATER BECOME HER MURDERER. ONE DAY AFTER HER MARRIAGE, ELHAM WAS TAKEN TO HOSPITAL DUE TO EXCESSIVE BLEEDING. THE DOCTOR WHO EXAMINED HER SAW THAT HER INTERNAL CANAL WAS RIPPED AND ASKED FOR HER TO BE ADMITTED. HER HUSBAND REFUSED TO ADHERE TO THE DOCTOR’S ADVICE AND INSISTED IN TAKING HIS WIFE HOME. TWO DAYS LATER HE BROUGHT A MOTIONLESS ELHAM BACK TO THE DOCTOR IN AN EMERGENCY. SHORTLY THEREAFTER, THE DOCTOR PRONOUNCED HER DEAD FROM SEVERE HEMORRHAGING RESULTING FROM THE RUPTURE OF INTERNAL ORGANS CAUSED FROM INTIMACY WITH HER HUSBAND… ELHAM MAHDI AL ASSI WAS 12 YEARS OLD AT THE TIME SHE WAS MARRIED OFF AND 12 WHEN SHE DIED.”
“FAWZIYA AMMODI WAS A BEAUTIFUL YOUNG GIRL, WHOSE LIFE CAME TO A TORTUROUS END WHEN SHE WAS FORCED INTO MARRIAGE WITH AN ELDERLY MAN. SHE BECAME WITH CHILD ALMOST IMMEDIATELY AND BORE THE COMPLICATIONS PREGNANCY PUT ON HER VERY SMALL FRAME. DURING CHILDBIRTH, FAWZIYA WENT INTO BRUTAL LABOR AND SUFFERED FOR THREE DAYS STRAIGHT. TOGETHER WITH HER BABY, SHE DIED OF SEVERE BLEEDING AND SHOCK. FAWZIYA WAS 11 WHEN SHE WAS GIVEN OUT IN MARRIAGE AND 12 YEARS OLD WHEN SHE DIED.”
“NUJOOD ALI WAS A GIRL WITH THE AMBITION OF ONE DAY BECOMING A DOCTOR. HER DREAMS WERE HALTED ABRUPTLY AND HER TROUBLES STARTED WHEN SHE WAS TAKEN OUT OF SCHOOL AND MARRIED OFF TO A MAN OVER TWICE HER AGE. HER HUSBAND BEAT AND RAPED HER CONTINUOUSLY, BUT A DETERMINATION WITHIN HER PROMPTED HER TO ESCAPE TO A COURT HOUSE, WHERE SHE DEMANDED FOR THE JUDGE TO GIVE HER AN ANNULMENT. NAJOOD WAS 10 WHEN SHE WAS MARRIED OFF AND 10 YEARS OLD WHEN SHE SAID “NO” AND SURVIVED.”
The case of angels like Elham, Fawziya and Nujood are a stark reminder of the increased risks placed on young girls who are married off too early and are clear examples of the justification for limits and enforcement of such limits on the age of marriage.
In several Islamic countries such as Yemen, the trend of very early arranged marriage, where girls as young as 8 and 9 are pawned out to much older men are common. In such societies there is a preference for child brides because they are considered docile, submissive and subservient to a husband. Usually the parents of the girls are agreeable to such union because the marriage of the girls lessens the financial burden on the family. In some instances, the parents insist on an undertaking from the husband that the marriage would not be consummated until the girl gets older and is mature. But from the accounts of the girls, the husbands hardly ever adhere to this arrangement. The high rate of underage marriage is generally attributed to economic reasons and largely takes place in Middle Eastern countries or rural areas of third world countries.
This week’s news that the Nigerian senate reversed a vote that appeared to outlaw underage marriage despite a senate policy that prohibits repeat votes on clauses was not only outrageous but disturbing and injudicious.
The calamity of abject poverty, sheer ignorance, sordid influence, appalling desire and absolute disregard of liberty personifies the atrocious case of the senators or anyone else for that matter, making a case to permit the marriage of minors.
Cases where andropausal men in the midst of their mid life crisis endeavor to purloin the innocence and childhood of a girl young enough to be their granddaughters, all in the name of matrimonial bliss are simply thoughtless, unfair and scandalous. Although the age at which a child assumes majority varies in different countries, depending on the jurisdiction and application, it would be difficult for anyone to make a case that a girl yet to reach the age of 13 has in anyway reached maturity or is any way near the threshold of adulthood, let alone view such a minor as a wife. It really is a contemptible catastrophe and a desecration of common decency for any adult Nigerian in this day and age to openly justify the rationality and humanity of such an unfortunate union. To take a young girl and treat her as if she were a woman is in all definition nothing short of child abuse and pedophilia.
The distaste of the senators who are justifying the concept of child marriages is made even worse by the fact that the senators are senior member of a legislative body that is meant to make laws that protect every citizen of Nigeria, including young girls. What happened in the hallowed chambers last Tuesday is outrageous to the very highest level and a huge embarrassment to the Nigerian Senate. Under the Child Rights Act 2003, the rights of every child are categorically outlined. The statute provides “a child’s best interests shall remain paramount in all considerations” and they shall be given the care and protection that is necessary for their wellbeing. Such laws were made in order to shelter children, especially young girls, from the transgressions of elements in the society. As leaders, one wonders what kind of example the senators justifying underage marriage imagine themselves to be setting, especially in the light of numerous cases of child abuse that the government is fighting.
One wonders where the Nigerian senators place the concept of maternal mortality, which is so much higher in societies that fail to protect prepubescent girls from exposure to the dangers that come with being a child bride and the medical safety of young girls. It is absolutely medically unsafe for a child to be exposed in a way that makes them candidates for Vesico-Vaginal fistula (VVF). When a young girl, whose pelvis is too narrow to give birth, is exposed to carnal acts or carrying and bearing a baby before her body is ready, pressure from the baby’s head blocks the circulation in her anatomy, destroying her tissue and forcing a gape which allows for involuntary urine flow. These and other pregnancy and labour complications are the fatal and painful realities faced by young girls who are forced to marry before or as soon as they reach puberty.
Every child should, at the very least have the right to grow up and every child should, in its most basic form, have the freedom of innocence. Regardless of any opinion, culture or religion, the issues regarding what values represent the right of a child to care, education, protection against violence and so many other basic liberties, are one and the same. This can certainly not be an un religious, western or imperialist viewpoint, but one of humanity.
Elham Mahdi al Assi, Fawziya Ammodi and Nujood Ali were all beautiful young girls, who deserved to have a childhood that prepared them for adulthood, but it was stolen from them. And while Elham and Fawziya didn’t survive their ordeal, Nujood stands as a beacon of hope for all the pre-adolescent child brides who are the unfortunate victims of stolen lives.
As the Nigerian National Assembly resume in voting for the laws that will eventually make up a revised new Nigerian Constitution, they should step up to their responsibility of protecting the rights and freedoms of the young by addressing this issue of such ridiculous early marriages and completely outlawing it.
While they do that, in the interest of all the young girls in Nigeria, Egypt, Yemen and beyond, those who have the opportunity should please ask the senators and those adult men who forage on the innocence of other people’s young daughters, if they truly believe that marrying a small, little, preadolescent girl is a right, positive or fair act. If the answer to that question is in the affirmative, they should then ask those same senators and men whether they would be ready to accept such early marriages for their preteen daughters. If the answer to that second question is nothing less than an ecstatic yes, then they have conceded that marrying a girl at such a tender age in these times is not right; it’s taking advantage of a girl and rendering her life… stolen!
Those of us who choose to stand on the side of the girl child and protect her from the dangers she will be exposed to as a child bride must all lend our voices in urging the senate to reconsider its position and resolution on child marriage. We must also pressure the House of Representatives and Houses of Assembly to reject any clause that gives life to underage marriage… And before they cast their votes, I urge the legislators to take a minute to think about their own preadolescent daughters’ best interest.... Because whatever is in the interest of their own prepubescent young daughters is also in the best interest of another person’s preadolescent young daughter.
Written By Hannatu Musawa
“ELHAM MAHDI AL ASSI WAS A YOUNG GIRL WITH GREAT PLANS FOR HER FUTURE. THOSE PLANS CAME TO A CRUEL END WHEN SHE MARRIED A MAN WHO WOULD LATER BECOME HER MURDERER. ONE DAY AFTER HER MARRIAGE, ELHAM WAS TAKEN TO HOSPITAL DUE TO EXCESSIVE BLEEDING. THE DOCTOR WHO EXAMINED HER SAW THAT HER INTERNAL CANAL WAS RIPPED AND ASKED FOR HER TO BE ADMITTED. HER HUSBAND REFUSED TO ADHERE TO THE DOCTOR’S ADVICE AND INSISTED IN TAKING HIS WIFE HOME. TWO DAYS LATER HE BROUGHT A MOTIONLESS ELHAM BACK TO THE DOCTOR IN AN EMERGENCY. SHORTLY THEREAFTER, THE DOCTOR PRONOUNCED HER DEAD FROM SEVERE HEMORRHAGING RESULTING FROM THE RUPTURE OF INTERNAL ORGANS CAUSED FROM INTIMACY WITH HER HUSBAND… ELHAM MAHDI AL ASSI WAS 12 YEARS OLD AT THE TIME SHE WAS MARRIED OFF AND 12 WHEN SHE DIED.”
“FAWZIYA AMMODI WAS A BEAUTIFUL YOUNG GIRL, WHOSE LIFE CAME TO A TORTUROUS END WHEN SHE WAS FORCED INTO MARRIAGE WITH AN ELDERLY MAN. SHE BECAME WITH CHILD ALMOST IMMEDIATELY AND BORE THE COMPLICATIONS PREGNANCY PUT ON HER VERY SMALL FRAME. DURING CHILDBIRTH, FAWZIYA WENT INTO BRUTAL LABOR AND SUFFERED FOR THREE DAYS STRAIGHT. TOGETHER WITH HER BABY, SHE DIED OF SEVERE BLEEDING AND SHOCK. FAWZIYA WAS 11 WHEN SHE WAS GIVEN OUT IN MARRIAGE AND 12 YEARS OLD WHEN SHE DIED.”
“NUJOOD ALI WAS A GIRL WITH THE AMBITION OF ONE DAY BECOMING A DOCTOR. HER DREAMS WERE HALTED ABRUPTLY AND HER TROUBLES STARTED WHEN SHE WAS TAKEN OUT OF SCHOOL AND MARRIED OFF TO A MAN OVER TWICE HER AGE. HER HUSBAND BEAT AND RAPED HER CONTINUOUSLY, BUT A DETERMINATION WITHIN HER PROMPTED HER TO ESCAPE TO A COURT HOUSE, WHERE SHE DEMANDED FOR THE JUDGE TO GIVE HER AN ANNULMENT. NAJOOD WAS 10 WHEN SHE WAS MARRIED OFF AND 10 YEARS OLD WHEN SHE SAID “NO” AND SURVIVED.”
The case of angels like Elham, Fawziya and Nujood are a stark reminder of the increased risks placed on young girls who are married off too early and are clear examples of the justification for limits and enforcement of such limits on the age of marriage.
In several Islamic countries such as Yemen, the trend of very early arranged marriage, where girls as young as 8 and 9 are pawned out to much older men are common. In such societies there is a preference for child brides because they are considered docile, submissive and subservient to a husband. Usually the parents of the girls are agreeable to such union because the marriage of the girls lessens the financial burden on the family. In some instances, the parents insist on an undertaking from the husband that the marriage would not be consummated until the girl gets older and is mature. But from the accounts of the girls, the husbands hardly ever adhere to this arrangement. The high rate of underage marriage is generally attributed to economic reasons and largely takes place in Middle Eastern countries or rural areas of third world countries.
This week’s news that the Nigerian senate reversed a vote that appeared to outlaw underage marriage despite a senate policy that prohibits repeat votes on clauses was not only outrageous but disturbing and injudicious.
The calamity of abject poverty, sheer ignorance, sordid influence, appalling desire and absolute disregard of liberty personifies the atrocious case of the senators or anyone else for that matter, making a case to permit the marriage of minors.
Cases where andropausal men in the midst of their mid life crisis endeavor to purloin the innocence and childhood of a girl young enough to be their granddaughters, all in the name of matrimonial bliss are simply thoughtless, unfair and scandalous. Although the age at which a child assumes majority varies in different countries, depending on the jurisdiction and application, it would be difficult for anyone to make a case that a girl yet to reach the age of 13 has in anyway reached maturity or is any way near the threshold of adulthood, let alone view such a minor as a wife. It really is a contemptible catastrophe and a desecration of common decency for any adult Nigerian in this day and age to openly justify the rationality and humanity of such an unfortunate union. To take a young girl and treat her as if she were a woman is in all definition nothing short of child abuse and pedophilia.
The distaste of the senators who are justifying the concept of child marriages is made even worse by the fact that the senators are senior member of a legislative body that is meant to make laws that protect every citizen of Nigeria, including young girls. What happened in the hallowed chambers last Tuesday is outrageous to the very highest level and a huge embarrassment to the Nigerian Senate. Under the Child Rights Act 2003, the rights of every child are categorically outlined. The statute provides “a child’s best interests shall remain paramount in all considerations” and they shall be given the care and protection that is necessary for their wellbeing. Such laws were made in order to shelter children, especially young girls, from the transgressions of elements in the society. As leaders, one wonders what kind of example the senators justifying underage marriage imagine themselves to be setting, especially in the light of numerous cases of child abuse that the government is fighting.
One wonders where the Nigerian senators place the concept of maternal mortality, which is so much higher in societies that fail to protect prepubescent girls from exposure to the dangers that come with being a child bride and the medical safety of young girls. It is absolutely medically unsafe for a child to be exposed in a way that makes them candidates for Vesico-Vaginal fistula (VVF). When a young girl, whose pelvis is too narrow to give birth, is exposed to carnal acts or carrying and bearing a baby before her body is ready, pressure from the baby’s head blocks the circulation in her anatomy, destroying her tissue and forcing a gape which allows for involuntary urine flow. These and other pregnancy and labour complications are the fatal and painful realities faced by young girls who are forced to marry before or as soon as they reach puberty.
Every child should, at the very least have the right to grow up and every child should, in its most basic form, have the freedom of innocence. Regardless of any opinion, culture or religion, the issues regarding what values represent the right of a child to care, education, protection against violence and so many other basic liberties, are one and the same. This can certainly not be an un religious, western or imperialist viewpoint, but one of humanity.
Elham Mahdi al Assi, Fawziya Ammodi and Nujood Ali were all beautiful young girls, who deserved to have a childhood that prepared them for adulthood, but it was stolen from them. And while Elham and Fawziya didn’t survive their ordeal, Nujood stands as a beacon of hope for all the pre-adolescent child brides who are the unfortunate victims of stolen lives.
As the Nigerian National Assembly resume in voting for the laws that will eventually make up a revised new Nigerian Constitution, they should step up to their responsibility of protecting the rights and freedoms of the young by addressing this issue of such ridiculous early marriages and completely outlawing it.
While they do that, in the interest of all the young girls in Nigeria, Egypt, Yemen and beyond, those who have the opportunity should please ask the senators and those adult men who forage on the innocence of other people’s young daughters, if they truly believe that marrying a small, little, preadolescent girl is a right, positive or fair act. If the answer to that question is in the affirmative, they should then ask those same senators and men whether they would be ready to accept such early marriages for their preteen daughters. If the answer to that second question is nothing less than an ecstatic yes, then they have conceded that marrying a girl at such a tender age in these times is not right; it’s taking advantage of a girl and rendering her life… stolen!
Those of us who choose to stand on the side of the girl child and protect her from the dangers she will be exposed to as a child bride must all lend our voices in urging the senate to reconsider its position and resolution on child marriage. We must also pressure the House of Representatives and Houses of Assembly to reject any clause that gives life to underage marriage… And before they cast their votes, I urge the legislators to take a minute to think about their own preadolescent daughters’ best interest.... Because whatever is in the interest of their own prepubescent young daughters is also in the best interest of another person’s preadolescent young daughter.
Written By Hannatu Musawa
Please let's pray and do the best we can as individuals to turn this around.
Stay blessed.
xxx, kwiksie~
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Friday, 19 July 2013
Life: It Isn’t Yours’ To Take (pt. 2)
Hi
people. Hope you’ve been ruminating on my last post for the past few days (?).
Yeah,
well you see I’m not quite finished with this topic (to be honest I don’t think
it can be stressed enough) and I just have to do the best that I can with the
help of the Holy Spirit to drum it into the Spirits, hearts and minds of every
single individual who’s thus far been deceived that ‘the world would be a
better place without me’ is a proven truth.
Please.
That’s the lamest lie I have EVER heard.
No
really, it actually is.
I
mean uhm, hel-looo! Has it ever been reported that there was a decrease in the
rate at which the ozone layer was depleting because someone killed themselves?
Or maybe that there was a sudden decrease in poverty levels worldwide, or an
unexplainable extinction all across the globe of much feared ailments like
cancer (of whatever kind) and AIDS and STDs and all the rest of them? Can you
link me to one such case, whereby someone thoughtlessly wasting their precious
lives, given to them by the Almighty, resulted in some positive and edifying
testimony??? I’ll help you with that one; THE ANSWER IS NO! Alright? Good is
not birthed by evil, EVER! Your death will not fix whatever it is you’re trying
to run from, it will not change the situation that has bruised you so badly, it
will NEVER help anybody, and worst of all, it will FOREVER (as in, permanently
plus a little extra) separate you from an eternity with Jesus. You have nothing
to GAIN and EVERYTHING to LOSE if you give into the urge to destroy you.
How does
accepting the short-term offer with the bleakest and most depressing prospects
ever, become more appealing than the long-term one with a lasting and trusted
promise?! o__0
I
just don’t get it!


This
is not an attempt to put fear into any heart (fear’s not God’s thing, it’s the
devil’s) but instead hope. To remind you that there’s such a glorious reason
He’s helped you hold it together this long, to remind you not to give up.
God’s
the maker of every happy ending and even though we human beings try our hardest
a lot of the time to turn our stories into heart-wrenching tales of woe, He
still is able to weave a wonderful, colorful conclusion out of the mess we make
of things! But, only if we let Him help.
To
my darling brother or sister dealing with or struggling with whatever trial, tragedy, dilemma, sickness, attack,
addiction, pain, hurt, heartbreak, poverty, crisis… (anything at all), who’s
reading this right now, all I’m trying to let you know is, there IS someone who
can fix all this (someone who can help you fix things as well) and you’ve got
no idea how much He yearns to! But you’ve got to quit running!
Quit
running from Him and His truth.







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So,
what’s it going to be mate? <3
Xxx,
Kwiksie~
Tuesday, 16 July 2013
Life: It Isn't Your's To Take.
Hi
people. Hope you’ve all been well? Long time no post… ;)
Come to think of it, it has been quite some time since I’ve been active here hasn’t it? Well, I sincerely apologize for that; I let a lot of activities get in the way of my ‘blogging’ time. Lol.
Come to think of it, it has been quite some time since I’ve been active here hasn’t it? Well, I sincerely apologize for that; I let a lot of activities get in the way of my ‘blogging’ time. Lol.
A
lot of things have been happening these past few months that have been weighing
on my heart to a high degree, not just with me mind you, but on a larger scope.
I mean, I’ve got loved ones who informed me that they’re yet denied a college
education, all thanks to the exceedingly untrustworthy and, sad to say, highly
decomposed state of the educational system in my beloved country and as if that
hardly encouraging update on their affairs wasn’t bad enough, just yesterday I
was hit with the very much unpleasant news that yet another two people known to
me, from my high school this time, have passed away. To top these few, there
are all the various goings-on around the globe; the unrest in this country, the
natural disaster in that, the economic meltdown in so-so region, the rise in
the crime rates in another…the troubles seem endless sometimes, don’t they?
Yes,
they do.
To
be honest, they tend to overwhelm a person----heck, I’d be overwhelmed myself
if I didn’t have Christ! It’s the truth! Because there is just so much that we emotionally
fragile human beings can deal with on our own and when the issues, which most
certainly will arise, exceed our ‘i-can-handle-it’ meter, we break down. End of
story.

You
know what I’ve learned over time? No human being is to be praised nor blamed
for my position or predicament. You heard me (or read me) correctly; no one. You
want to know why? Because the conclusion of this journey I call my life,
whether pleasant or disheartening will be resulting from my decisions. There will
be people, factors, situations and experiences that will serve either as
stepping stones or stumbling blocks along the way to boost or possibly break me,
but where I end up is as a result of the critical choices I’d have made on the
way. I simply must take responsibility for them. Of course, God is always
faithful and gracious to reward they who completely rely on Him, seek His will
and follow His leading.
i.e The ‘right’ choices that prove profitable in the
long run and we can take pride in must be the ones that obey, please and honor
Him on every level and in every way. (Philippians 1:11// Galatians 6:14// 2Corinthians 10:17-18 and 1 Corinthians 10:31). Anything outside that is bound
to flop…eventually.
Very
often, I get to hear some very moving life stories. Either via the media, or
someone repeating a story they’d heard or when an individual chooses to share a
personal experience with me. You know sometimes it can feel like there are a
lot of forces viciously working against you and the temptation to melt into a
pool of pity arises, but then you hear of some really pathetic, almost
unbelievable experiences of the next person which just totally break your heart
and you wonder; “How did they hold it together this long?”, “What must they
have felt?”, etc. It’s happened to me countless times, there I am feeling
thoroughly sorry for myself for some mean hand fate’s dealt to me…till someone’s
much more harrowing situation jerks me back to being thankful for whatever good
thing I’ve got going in my life.
There’s
ALWAYS something to be grateful for that should keep you going!!!

Oh, and you want to know the
ultra-modern, fast spreading ‘cheap exit’ we seem to have come up with when ‘we’ve
just had enough and can’t take it anymore!’? Suicide.
Sure,
hit me with all the ‘it’s MY life!’, ‘you just don’t understand’, ‘there’s
nothing else one can do’, ‘it’s the only way’ or better yet, ‘you’ll do the
same if you were in their shoes’ that you’ve got. You know what I say?
WRONG!
WRONG!! WRONG!!!
You
know why? Because it is wrong, that’s
why.
First
of all, it’s not your call. You did not create yourself nor give yourself life (Genesis
2:7); God did. Imagine if when the first Apple
product was produced, it was configured to pack up after a stipulated period of
time during which it ought to have performed a series of tasks for its owner,
despite the fact that the device had the ‘ability’ to permanently shut itself
down whenever it ‘chose’; only for many of the products in question to so ‘choose’
to shut down without accomplishing any of the tasks they were designed and
produced to. Would you consider that fair to the producer, who would suffer
staggering loss? Would the devices have added any value to their numerous owners
who never got to take advantage of all they had to offer? Do you think the
producer will be pleased that his prized creation would have to go to the junk
heap, without fulfilling that for which it was made? No, I seriously doubt
that.
Think about it...please.
xxx, Kwiksie~
To Be Continued On Next Post…
Tuesday, 25 June 2013
Too Comfortable.
I really thought I had it covered,
Like it were right in the palm of my hand.
Making the right speeches, announcing the
right doings;
With the scolding, head-shaking and
correcting
I temporarily impersonated perfection.
But the solution to the unformed riddle,
Is that I’ve become too comfortable.
The less noticeable but constant errs
trivialized
While activities void of substance are my
consolation.
Convicting with looks and convincing with
words;
My performance gets better, the performer
turns worse.
Recounting exaggerated tales with the
appropriate diction and metaphors
Yet I’ve become the outsider looking in at
the better person that I was
And what the reason for this switch is…I’m at
a loss.
So with the best and the mediocre and me stuck
in the middle
It’s become very obvious that I’ve been way
too comfortable.
A wane in my formerly intense passion,
Mortalizing my divinity aimed devotion.
Separating my ALL from you and replacing it
with ‘some’,
More ashamed at my lack of doing over what
I’ve actually done.
Too convinced that me attaining a few parts
meant wholly complete,
Over confident in my knowledge of you, I let
the times we communicated replete.
I was firm till I became unstable,
I love you but have become too comfortable.
You need actions, less words.
You seek Constance not once.
I tried but hoarded my best,
Completely giving you less.
I put you second in line
The second I auctioned our time.
And so let me make this vow, not for the
future but now;
The moment I start to relax or put my pride
in mere acts,
I’ll freeze right in my tracks and in
humility seek you.
Because I can’t love you as I should when I’m
too comfortable.
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Stay blessed you all.
xxx, kwiksie~
xxx, kwiksie~
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Sunday, 23 June 2013
Story So Far...
Hiiiiiiii everyone! I'd just like you all to know that i have been having a most wonderful time LIVING and i've got so much joy just straining to get out. :)
Now although today was quite intenseley hectic and i felt really drained and frustrated a couple times, God strengthened (and is still strengthening) me. Yippee!!! ^_^
Anyway, i just thought it would be nice if i made today's post more like a picture story of the various highlights there've been in my time in year one...with maybe a few throwbacks. Enjoy!

Omega Semester Ending:




PSY Carwash:

That's it for year one. :D I give God all the glory for the wonderful ppl i've come to meet and for the good times and fab memories...but now we're #offthis matter. ON TO THE NEXT LEVEL! ;)
Have an amazing week people!
xxx, Kwiksie~ :)
Now although today was quite intenseley hectic and i felt really drained and frustrated a couple times, God strengthened (and is still strengthening) me. Yippee!!! ^_^
Anyway, i just thought it would be nice if i made today's post more like a picture story of the various highlights there've been in my time in year one...with maybe a few throwbacks. Enjoy!
1st Few Days of Omega Semester:
@the library (just taking a break) :p |
CU'S GOT TALENT:
Prior semi-finals :) <Make up by ~Kofo> |
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The trainers |
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The judges: Tobi, Davina and Bikas. |
After finals (at least i made it there): Tobi n i |
Alpha Semester Throwbacks:
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First day of school. ^_^ |
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Tomiwa and i |
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Olivia and I |
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My birthday!!! (Nov 1) |
Founders day: Idara n i |
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Me and Michelle |
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#Matriculated.![]() |
Omega Semester Ending:
Old school hairdo. |
Ruthie!!! on trad Sunday |
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Aina n me in class (5mins before oh) |
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1st time @the beach |
bella n i |
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Mercy, Bella and Me. |
Me n Lil' miss make-up artist>>@T_ainy. ;) |
College Dinners (My floormates):
Manmak: our mentor-ship ;) |
Olivia |
A.K |
Idara |
PSY Carwash:
Miriam |
Nedu and Hauwa |
Dera and Bimbo |
Funto and i. |
Manmak |
Ebun and Joy |
That's it for year one. :D I give God all the glory for the wonderful ppl i've come to meet and for the good times and fab memories...but now we're #offthis matter. ON TO THE NEXT LEVEL! ;)
Have an amazing week people!
xxx, Kwiksie~ :)
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